Coaching and Mentoring – what is the difference and what do I need?
If you Google definitions of Coaching and Mentoring you will find a lot of different ones, many of which contradict each other. For quite a long time this frustrated me. I now think it doesn’t matter too much as long as you are getting what you need from the coaching/mentoring relationship.
In this blog I am going to explain what I think the difference is.
I like to use an analogy “Mentoring is like putting a scaffolding around a building. Coaching is like crossing a bridge”.
Imagine that ‘you and your career’ is the building and your mentor is the scaffolding. While you work together, you focus on different parts of the building, determined by you, supported by the scaffolding, your mentor. There is no substantial change, but when the mentoring relationship ends and the scaffolding removed, you are a developed and upgraded version of you.
Mentoring is often provided in work, through professional bodies such as the ICSA or informal relationships formed throughout your career. Your mentor may have received some training to do the role, may be a trained coach or some people do it well instinctively. But there can sometimes be a lack of clarity about what mentoring is and what is required from a mentor. Some internal mentoring programmes, such as ones designed to achieve a particular outcome such as becoming a Partner or promotion in a company, might be more directive. To go back to my analogy, in these cases, the mentor may determine what parts of the building you need to work on. Even so, it is well established that telling someone what they should do is never the best way of developing someone, so this approach should still give you scope to input.
Coaching is like crossing a bridge. You start on one bank of a river and supported by your coach you decide where you want to be when you finish. You spend time defining very carefully what location you want to reach over the bridge – your goal(s). Once you know where you are trying to go, you meet regularly with your coach and walk together across the bridge. The regularity of meetings and goal focussed approach supports the achievement of significant change and/or the building of new habits. Therefore, when the coaching relationship finishes, you will find yourself on the other side of the river, in your dream location. This might literally be a new location – a new job or a promotion. But it could also be a new version of you – more resilient, more confident, a wider choice of soft skills to choose from, to name but a few.
Some coaches are accredited and are required to complete regular CPD, giving assurance of quality. Some coaches developed their skills informally, or formally but have chosen not to go down the accreditation route.
This diagram summarises further the differences between coaching and mentoring as I see them.
© Lesley Ward Coaching
So, if you are trying to decide whether you need a coach or a mentor my tip would be to think about what you would like to achieve. Then, irrespective of whether it is called Coaching or Mentoring, check to see whether your choice will deliver that.
If you would like to discuss the differences and what you might need, I am happy to have a chat – please get in touch.
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I have been coaching and mentoring governance professionals for several years now and there are some themes that arise repeatedly. In my next few blogs, based on my experience, I will share with you what those common areas are, the goals you can set in those areas and actions that can be taken to achieve your goals.
The common areas include:-
- Achieving a work life balance
- Letting go of the detail when you have been promoted
Click on the links above to read those blogs.
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I meet Governance Professionals daily as part of my work and I know what a confident, knowledgeable and together bunch of people you are. You regularly hold your own in the boardroom; meet the daily challenges of the role without batting an eyelid; lead a successful team; garner respect and ooze authority and follow a well-planned career plan. Many of you wouldn’t dream of thinking that you ‘needed’ a coach. After all coaching is for more junior people who haven’t got this stuff right? Or for people who are failing?
Wrong – if that was the case why do so many Executives have coaches? Coaching is for high performers, at any stage of their career, to help them become even more of a high performer. Find out more here.
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LinkedIn article 25/1/19
Negotiating Deadline Extensions
Sometimes, despite having my time management strategies in place and having tackled my procrastination, I still find myself unable to meet a deadline. At times there just are not enough hours in the day. When this happens I need to be able to negotiate an extension in a way that does not negatively impact on my work reputation. As a Governance Professional I think this is crucial – how can I expect others to take my deadlines seriously if I do not treat theirs with respect? Click here for more information.
LinkedIn article 18/1/19
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I think I am not unusual in sometimes finding myself paralysed with the sheer volume of things to do. That feeling of when you can’t settle to one job, but keep jumping from one to another and end up finishing nothing. I have a few tricks I use when this happens. Click here to find out more.
LinkedIn article 11/1/19
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Most of us are familiar with this scenario. You get into the office on a Monday morning. You know what you need to achieve in the coming week (it’s board paper week) but by the time you’ve walked from your desk to the kitchen to make your first cup of coffee and back to your desk you’ve already had 4 new verbal requests. Then you check your email – the Chair has been busy over the weekend and suddenly there are lots of other things to do.
How do you ensure that you can achieve them all and still get your board pack out in time? Time management skills are crucial if you want to be an effective governance professional. Click here to read about what worked for me.
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A guiding hand
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(article originally published in Governance and Compliance Magazine, www.govcompmag.com)
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To illustrate this point here are some of the things the ICSA Conference speakers this year challenged Company Secretaries to do…
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In the following article I suggest that coaching is the ideal way of helping Company Secretaries build the skills required to realise their full potential, particularly in smaller organisations where there may only be one or two such roles.
Where was the company secretary? (read more)
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